Blessed by God with the ability to express ourselves vocally as human beings, crystal-clear and truthful COMMUNICATION is imperative, if a relationship is to last a lifetime.
Our collaborative free will choice of living in DIVINE INTIMACY, is because God Himself has been invited to be our 3rd partner.
And there is nothing so grave or perceived “bad” that Christine and I can do, that is not forgivable and a solution is always found for.
Timeout separations (no more than 1 hour) as I learned in my court mandated domestic violence class that I baptized “wife beaters” can serve to avoid:
° heat of the moment verbal abuse
° veiled threats
° gaps of silence
° egoic not discussing important situations with each other, that can truly hinder growth in a relationship.
Again, this is where asking for Divine Intervention is the best means to expediently getting back on track.
Also, of utmost import, is to never, ever bring up the past.
And that’s exactly where the past belongs in the rearview mirror of life; because there’s nothing that can be done to change what occurred or the circumstances.
It was ~ what it was.
Unforgivingly stating “you did that.........”, negatively impacts the partner's feelings, and brings back the past hurt.
And continually recalling past transgressions, can keep a couple "Groundhog Daying" stuck in the past, merry-go-rounding an old wound, and not progressing forward.
Another GIANT mistake in communication is voicing generalizations and ultimatums.
Admonishing your partner with "YOU always leave the dirty dishes in the sink", and "YOU don't ever clean them well", and "that there will be hell for YOU to pay" is:
spiritually, mentally and emotionally cancerous language.
Living a 3rd dimensional temporal and transitory life, is full of mistakes that should be forgiven instantly and permanently.
There is no such thing as karma or luck.
When we negatively transgress mentally or physically, it does not mean that an instant equal perceived "bad" happenstance will occur.
God will often gently remind us of our incorrect telepathing or wrong doing, so that we can immediately repent and ask Him and the object of our transgression for forgiveness.
IMMEDIATE UNCONDITIONAL & ETERNAL FORGIVENESS are the key elements to Kingdom Living:
1 foot on Earth and the other in Heaven
Learn to appreciate your partner for whom they are and celebrate their divine uniqueness.
Christ Yeshua chose to be celebrated ~ not just tolerated!
INSTANT KARMA! (WE ALL SHINE ON). (Ultimate Mix, 2020) - Lennon/Ono with The Plastic Ono Band (youtube.com)
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