During our extremely painful 10-month separation in 2010, Christine and I purposely chose to work individually on ourselves and ultimately SELF ACTUALIZE.
Our goal was to replicate those miraculous 6 weeks that we enjoyed at the end of 2009 with our "feet not touching the ground."
Through the inspiration of Ruach Hakodesh (Holy Spirit in Hebrew), we chose when we met for the very, very 1st time, to tell each other ~ as was the oath repeated in United States' courts:
“the whole truth and nothing but the truth, so help me God.”
And that we did, gently making our points as if rallying before a ping-pong match, giving up the need of serving first, to serve each other first.
When we mindfully and purposefully choose to put the needs of our partner before our own, then we can truthfully say that we are in the right relationship.
A key couplehood "empty canvas" component was telling each other all of our most INTIMATE TRUTHS.
Especially, after Christine was previously married for 34 years and just became a widow with 5 kids.
As well as my 34 years of marriage:
5 years the first time via the Roman Catholic Church @ the ripe ol' age of 19 and my wife was 18.
And then 29 years during the 2nd matrimony also ending in divorce, and being blessed with 2 wonderful children that at 42 and 40 years of age, are my very best friends.
Both Christine and I committing to a totally fresh start, we agreed that for our new relationship to last the rest of our lives, we had to respect and forgive each other’s pasts.
As well as to honor each other’s inherent family structures.
The TRUTH setting us free, we both agreed that lies of omission are exactly that, lies.
Consciously choosing to completely clean out our spiritual, mental and emotional closets, it was a very un-encumbering experience, that continues to this very day 12+ years later.
And because in deciding to enjoy a mutual empty canvas to create on, we chose to let each other be 100% FREE and paint on any part, in whatever manner we individually chose to.
Whether it is Dali-like, Michelangelo inspired or abstract Picasso style, we enjoy an absolute blessing in expressing our TRUE selves, exactly as we personally are.
Each of us has the DIVINE RIGHT, within our committed monogamous couplehood covenant of:
ALTRUISTIC, UNCONDITIONAL LOVE, RESPECT & SHARED EQUALITY.
And to be exactly who we really are and to truly feel safe and free about it.
As well as to follow our own paths respectfully within the relationship, each climbing our combined and individual Stairway To Heaven.
Similar to the zebras below, Christine and I always have watched, and continue watching each other's backs, and tell each other our 100% TRUTHS.
Christ Jesus declared as quoted in John 8:32:
"Ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free."
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